What To Do When "This Isn't Working For Me"


There is NOTHING more frustrating than staying on plan, doing EVERYTHING right, getting your workouts in (even after work), eating EXACTLY what you planned, fasting for 16 hours...

...And then NOT seeing the weight go down.

I don't think I've ever experienced ANYTHING more frustrating than that in my entire weight loss journey. 

It was at these exact moments that I would wonder if I should throw in the towel or not, because "This ______ just doesn't work for me."

"I tried it, and it didn't work."

"I gave it my best, but my best wasn't good enough."

"What's the point? Nothing is changing."

...What does this feel like for you, << Test First Name >>, when you are at this point? 

For me, I would feel frustrated, humiliated, angry, and just downright discouraged (and maybe even a little bit depressed).

I would feel like I would never be good enough, I would never have what it takes, and that nothing will ever work for me because I'm never good enough, I don't have what it takes (and the cycle would repeat).

Now -- here's what I learned about this entire vicious cycle.

This vicious loop would repeat in my head because I based my SELF-WORTH and my POTENTIAL on results that I didn't have.

I inherently believed that I would ONLY be good enough when I was at the weight I wanted. And that if I wasn't at that weight, I was a FAILURE at life.

...But what if the results didn't have to determine my worth?

What if the results I had right now (AKA the weight on the scale) was just a MATH PROBLEM that I had to solve? 

What if weight loss was ONLY problem solving?

And if the only thing that my current weight meant was that I wasn't taking the specific actions I needed to lose the weight? (And I could re-adjust, re-assess, re-adjust, and re-assess UNTIL I get the weight I want?)

Because the good news is this: How quickly, how slowly, how much pounds you lose or you gain... NONE of that matters. Because weight loss itself is neutral. It's just a process of losing weight.

What matters is your DETERMINATION to figure out why you have the weight that you do, and your COMMITMENT to finding the exact regimen that works for you so that you can keep the weight off for good.

There is NO SUCH THING as losing weight "badly", or being "Bad at weight loss," because that only exists IN YOUR MIND.

What matters is how you SOLVE your weight loss "math problem" with the mindset that you haven't figured out what works for you JUST yet.

So let's continue solving this problem together.

And let's keep solving this problem together UNTIL you are at the weight you've always wanted. Because you ARE worthy, you ARE capable, and you have EVERYTHING you need to start losing weight right now.

(To get a head start, listen to my podcast Permanent Weight Loss for Busy Nurses EVERY Thursday morning, and I'll give you my best weight loss SOLUTIONS for wherever you are in your journey right now.)

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